Your body remembers what your mind tries to forget. When something overwhelming happened—whether in childhood or later in life—your nervous system made a split-second decision about how to survive. Fight back. Run away. Shut down. Make yourself small and agreeable.
These four trauma responses—fight, flight, freeze, fawn—aren’t conscious choices. They’re automatic survival mechanisms hardwired into your nervous system. And while they once kept you safe, they might now be keeping you stuck.
Understanding your dominant trauma response pattern is the first step toward healing. At Integrative Life Center, we help you recognize these patterns and work with your nervous system to create lasting change.
Understanding Your Nervous System’s Survival Strategies
When your brain perceives a threat—real or imagined—it activates one of the four trauma responses before you can consciously think about it. This happens through your autonomic nervous system, which operates below your awareness to keep you alive.
According to polyvagal theory, your nervous system has different states: safe and connected, mobilized for fight or flight, or immobilized in freeze. When you experience trauma, your nervous system gets stuck in threat-detection mode, activating these responses even when you’re actually safe.
The four responses (fight flight freeze fawn) are all valid survival strategies. None is better or worse than another. Your nervous system simply learned which one worked best in your specific circumstances. These responses happen to you, not because of any weakness or failure on your part.
Fight Response: When Survival Looks Like Anger
The fight response shows up as anger, aggression, irritability, and a constant need for control. You feel on edge, ready for battle, easily triggered by things that others might brush off. Your nervous system learned that fighting back equals staying safe.
In daily life, the fight response might look like snapping at loved ones over small things, needing to “win” every argument, or feeling like everyone is against you. You might struggle with road rage, conflicts at work, or explosive reactions that surprise even you. Hypervigilance keeps you always scanning for the next threat, unable to let your guard down.
The hidden function of fight is that it keeps you from feeling powerless. When you’re ready to defend yourself, you’re not vulnerable. But this constant defensiveness damages relationships and keeps you isolated. You might struggle with high-functioning anxiety that manifests as controlling behavior or difficulty trusting others.
Flight Response: Running From What Hurts
Flight looks like avoidance, staying constantly busy, workaholism, panic, and restlessness. You fill every moment with activity to avoid sitting with uncomfortable feelings. Your nervous system learned that escape equals survival.
This shows up as difficulty with commitment—ending relationships before getting too close, changing jobs frequently, always having an exit strategy planned. You might overschedule yourself to avoid being alone with your thoughts, use substances or exercise to stay in motion, or feel panic when you’re “trapped” in situations you can’t easily leave.
Flight keeps you from facing painful emotions or situations, but it also leads to exhaustion, burnout, and an inability to be truly present in your life. Anxiety and meditation techniques can feel impossible because sitting still feels dangerous to your nervous system.
Many people with the flight response struggle with the fight flight freeze response cycle, swinging between anxious avoidance and occasional freeze states when escape isn’t possible.
Freeze Response: When Your Body Shuts Down
Freeze happens when fight or flight aren’t options. Your nervous system immobilizes you to survive—like playing dead. This shows up as dissociation, numbness, feeling disconnected from yourself, brain fog, or literally going blank during confrontations.
You might watch yourself make choices you don’t want to make but feel unable to stop. Life feels like it’s happening to someone else. You struggle with procrastination and decision-making because taking action feels impossible. Memory gaps are common—you don’t remember important conversations or events because you weren’t fully present.
In moments of conflict, you freeze up and can’t speak. Only later do you think of what you wished you’d said. This response protects you from overwhelming pain by numbing everything, but it also means life passes by while you’re stuck watching from the outside.
EMDR treatment for anxiety is particularly effective for freeze responses because it helps reprocess the traumatic memories that created the pattern, allowing your nervous system to “unfreeze.”
Fawn Response: People-Pleasing as Self-Protection
The fawning trauma response is the newest recognized pattern and often the most overlooked. Fawn looks like people-pleasing, over-apologizing, having no boundaries, and putting everyone else’s needs before your own. You become whoever others need you to be.
This response typically develops when expressing your needs or disagreeing was dangerous—common in families where children had to manage their parents’ emotions or walk on eggshells to keep the peace. Your nervous system learned that appeasing others equals safety.
In daily life, fawn shows up as apologizing constantly for things that aren’t your fault, saying yes when you mean no, taking responsibility for others’ emotions, and losing yourself in relationships. You struggle to know what you actually want because you’ve spent so much energy anticipating what others need.
The hidden function is preventing conflict and abandonment by making yourself easy and accommodating. But this leads to resentment, burnout, one-sided relationships, and a complete loss of identity. Many people with fawn responses develop codependent patterns and don’t realize they’re connected to adverse childhood experiences.
Where These Patterns Come From
These four trauma responses develop as survival strategies, usually in childhood. Your nervous system learned which response kept you safest in your specific environment. It’s not about what happened—it’s about what your nervous system concluded about survival.
Common origins include unpredictable or dangerous caregivers, emotional neglect, physical or emotional abuse, witnessing violence, medical trauma, or being required to parent your own parents. The patterns become automatic, happening before conscious thought.
You might use different responses in different contexts—fight at work, freeze at home, fawn in romantic relationships. This makes sense. Your nervous system adapted to different environments in different ways.
These responses made sense given what you experienced. Your nervous system was doing its job to keep you alive.
How Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn Show Up in Adult Life
In romantic relationships, fight might look like constant arguments and defensiveness. Flight shows up as fear of commitment or leaving when things get serious. Freeze appears as an inability to express needs or going along with things you don’t want. Fawn manifests as losing yourself completely in one-sided relationships.
At work, fight creates conflicts with authority and difficulty receiving feedback. Flight drives job-hopping and anxiety about being trapped in any position. Freeze leads to procrastination and missed opportunities. Fawn results in overworking, inability to say no, and being taken advantage of.
These patterns aren’t conscious choices. You don’t wake up deciding to respond this way. That’s why simply trying harder or “getting over it” doesn’t work. Your nervous system needs support to learn new patterns.
The anxiety recovery stages often include recognizing these trauma responses as a crucial part of healing.
The Connection to Addiction and Mental Health
Unhealed trauma responses often underlie both addiction and mental health conditions. Fight responses can lead to using substances to calm anger and irritability. Flight responses correlate with anxiety disorders and using substances to slow down or escape. Freeze connects to depression, dissociation, and using to feel something or nothing. Fawn responses drive codependency and using substances to fit in or please others.
Treating only the addiction or mental health symptoms without addressing the underlying trauma response leads to high relapse rates. Why? The nervous system dysregulation remains untreated. This is why trauma-informed care is essential—it addresses the root cause, not just symptoms.
Healing Trauma Responses at Integrative Life Center
At Integrative Life Center in Nashville, we understand that your fight, flight, freeze, or fawn responses aren’t character flaws. They’re your nervous system’s attempt to keep you safe. Our holistic approach to mental health treatment addresses healing at the deepest level: the nervous system itself.
Our trauma-specialized therapists help you recognize your dominant trauma response patterns and understand the “why” behind behaviors that may have confused you for years. Many clients experience profound relief when they realize their reactions aren’t failures but protective mechanisms that once served them well.
Through EMDR therapy, we help you reprocess the traumatic memories that created these survival patterns. EMDR allows your brain to “digest” experiences that got stuck, reducing the intensity of trauma responses over time. Your nervous system learns that the threat is in the past, not the present.
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We work directly with your nervous system using polyvagal theory principles. You’ll learn to recognize when you’re in fight, flight, or freeze mode versus a safe, regulated state. More importantly, you’ll develop tools to shift your nervous system from survival mode back to a place where healing can occur.
Trauma lives in the body, not just the mind. Our trauma-informed bodywork, yoga, and movement therapies help release stored trauma from your nervous system. When talk therapy isn’t enough, somatic approaches access healing at a different level.
Through Internal Family Systems therapy, you’ll understand the different “parts” of yourself that activate different trauma responses. The part that fights may be protecting a younger part that felt powerless. The part that fawns may be trying to prevent abandonment. IFS helps these parts work together rather than against you.
Our cognitive behavioral therapy exercises for anxiety and DBT skills training give you practical tools to regulate your nervous system when trauma responses are triggered. You’ll learn grounding techniques, distress tolerance, and emotional regulation strategies that work with your specific response pattern.
Ready to move beyond survival mode? You don’t have to live in constant fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. At Integrative Life Center, our trauma-informed care helps you heal at the nervous system level, addressing the root causes of patterns that have kept you stuck. Call 615-891-2226 today to speak with our admissions team about how our Nashville program can help you find safety, regulation, and lasting healing.
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